Day 4-- Frustrated with Dietician at the Center

Ok, so I'm at 4 days on plan...in my mind. In the dietician's mind, I'm 1 day on plan. Apparently the directions weren't explained to me very well. The first dietician said that calories aside from shakes on my plan were not to exceed 40 calories or 10 carbs, whichever came first. APPARENTLY, it was also not supposed to be any items that weren't on the list.
So, for the past 3 days I did calculations and figured out what would be ok in plan. One day I added 1/4 teaspoon of parmesan cheese to a baked version of my chicken soup. It was fewer than 20 calories. Two days I had 1 tablespoon milk in my coffee. All days I had 2 pickle slices.
The dietician looked at my list and said "you can't have this. Why did you have this?" and I said, well, I thought I could, I stayed by these guidelines. And she says "Oh, no no no, on this diet you can NOT have any of these things, and that's probably why your weight loss is not as much as it should be"....I lost 3.5 lbs in 4 days. The woman is nuts. She also wanted me to cut out the chicken broth even though it's on the allowed list, because she's afraid I'm retaining water. Um...yeah...I get migraines. I drink the broth when I feel a headache coming on, and it seems to help. I've been having a bit of loose stool, too, so I would be HAPPY to retain some water in my body and not coming out the other end. Not to mention, my blood pressure has NEVER been a problem. So leave my salt alone!!!
Then she saw the milk: "MILK, why did you have MILK???"
It's so silly. Sugar Free creamers are on the list. The milk did not exceed the specifications of the diet, and actually had less fat than the creamers!
My mom's a dietician, so I've been asking her advice the whole time, and thinks these distinctions between what I can have and can't have are completely arbitrary. For instance, salad spritzers are allowed, but lettuce is not.

Anyways...I've decided that I'm going to stick to the diet as best I can, keep the carbs under 10 and the calories under 40, and if I need a pickle or some broth to make it, I'm going to have them, dagnabit!